Around 6 years ago, when my daughter was just 9 months old, her dad and I decided to part ways. It wasn’t a smooth and clean transition for any of us and was honestly one of the most emotional, devastating, and painful moments in my life.
However, we knew it was the best decision to make for our daughter, and that we would make amazing parents- separately.
At first, I felt so inadequate. I got pregnant at 18 years old (Watch my 18 & Pregnant Story video here) and I felt like I was being thrown into a brand new, uncertain and scary journey of my life with no preparation, no knowledge, and very little support from friends and family. Eventually, however, I did discover specific methods that helped me continue to be a happy, healthy single mother (watch my YouTube video here).
Fast forward to today, I have my own social media coaching business, I am a full time content creator and blogger. I’m continuing to pursue my education while managing multiple jobs, living alone with my daughter in the Bay Area, and thriving mentally and emotionally!
(This doesn’t mean I don’t have bad days, or weeks, in fact, I just lost my day job due to the COVID-19 pandemic, but it was the push I needed to launch my business and dive headfirst into my own ventures. I do struggle with anxiety and depression, but I take it one day at a time. I keep constants in my life such as a supportive circle of friends, maintaining boundaries for myself and others, strategic self-care, and consistent therapy sessions.)
Let’s jump right into what I’ve learned so far as a single mother:
Women Can Do ANYTHING
This goes without saying, but women are so influential and so powerful. As I raise a young daughter and break cultural barriers in my parenting style, I am reminded how much she will value growing up with a single mother and model my behavior.
We start our days with affirmations, here are a few:
I am smart
I can choose friends that make me feel good about myself
I am worthy and loved
I am independent
I can do anything